Tim and I got married while I was still on this medicine, and one night we started to discuss depression. Tim has been through a lot and has over come many things. When Tim puts his mind to something he does it. I have never in my life met someone, who could will the power to do this, like Tim. If he wants to change something about his life for the better, he is going to do it and not let anything stop him. While we were discussing, Tim told me he didn't think I needed the medicine and would fully support me if I decided to try and get off of it. There were a couple of reasons I didn't want to be on it at this point. First of all it made me very tired. Also, I didn't want to be on anti-depressents whenever we did get pregnant. I wanted it to be far out of my system. Together we decided it was time for me to try and go without these wonderful happy pills.
Paxil has one of the worse withdraws as an anti-depressent. And at that age, me feeling invincible as I did, I did it cold turkey. That was a very horrible idea. I felt more depressed than I ever have. While the Paxil was numbing my depression, it also numbed my happiness. So now when I felt happy, I felt happier than before because it wasn't being numbed. I was so unbelievably moody though, and I would cry at the drop of a pin. A little bit later I became pregnant, not realizing of course for the first two months. You guys, Tim was living with a pregnant women who was going to horrible depression meds withdrawl . I guarantee he's one of the strongest men you know, it wasn't easy. I can't even explain to you how mentally agonizing this time of my life was, depression sucks. I remember when I was about 2.5 months pregnant I had a huge fit about how my pants won't ever fit me ever again and how I was going to be fat for the rest of my life. I was crying so hard. (I'm so sorry you went through all of this Tim, you are my bestest friend). Looking back now I laugh so hard at how over dramatic I was being.
After the miscarriage Tim and I were both depressed. I was talking to God a lot at this point, and although I did feel a state of comfort, I still was depressed. I remember one night, when I told Tim that if we stayed in Tucson I wanted to kill myself. Living in Tucson and thinking about Tucson angered me more than anything. We of course had no choice to move at this point, but I wanted there to be a choice. Tim was rightfully angry at me for saying that, and reminded me that there are about a billion people worse off than me. Depression makes no sense. It makes you irrational about the stupidest things and makes you angry at nothing. After talking I was still absolutely angry inside but Tim had some very valid points, so I tried to calm down about the whole Tucson thing. I was trying to keep my life in perspective. After a couple more weeks I went back to the doctor to get Paxil again because I felt like a prisoner in my own brain. I got the medicine from him, but didn't immediately start taking it. I think I just wanted to know that safety blanket was there.
One night Tim and I went to Barnes and Nobles and I found a book called "Jesus Calling: 365 devotions for kids", I read one page and I knew I needed it. Day to day it's written like God is talking to you. I fell in love with the kids version because it was so real. It didn't try and use all of those big fancy ol'timey words. After a couple of weeks I honestly started feeling so much better. I felt like the reigns that depression had on my brain were slowly getting looser. Tim and I were going through a lot of financial and car issues at this time too, and everyday I would read this book and realize I am not in control. God is absolutely in control. I started focusing on the fact that life may be hard, but I don't need to worry because God is helping me through every step.
My depression was gone. (I still have anger, but not to the caliber as before.) I wish I could explain the sense of peace that falls over you when you let God take complete control. I had some serious depression, I told my husband I was going to kill myself because of the city we lived in, and months later I was singing praises to God no matter what was thrown at me. I don't want to say "it's as easy as that"...but it kind of is. It takes a lot of will to let go of control, it takes a lot of will to want to get rid of your depression. Depression is addicting, in some sick way it does give you a weird high, so you have to really want to get rid of it.
Friends, if you are struggling with depression, Jesus is out there, waiting to free you. I am happier today than I have ever been in my whole life. Jesus was waiting there for me with open arms; I can imagine the smile on His face when I finally realized what life was really about. Everyone's story is different, but it is that easy to free yourself, He can do anything. I could never thank God enough for giving me Tim to go through this with. He stood by me this whole time and never once gave up on me, his love was unconditional for me. I know for a fact God was definitly comforting him and giving him strength to deal with me.
Friends, if you are struggling with depression, Jesus is out there, waiting to free you. I am happier today than I have ever been in my whole life. Jesus was waiting there for me with open arms; I can imagine the smile on His face when I finally realized what life was really about. Everyone's story is different, but it is that easy to free yourself, He can do anything. I could never thank God enough for giving me Tim to go through this with. He stood by me this whole time and never once gave up on me, his love was unconditional for me. I know for a fact God was definitly comforting him and giving him strength to deal with me.